Now I’m no specialist nor am I cupid but I am a millennial, so I can relate to our everyday struggles. Between wanting to be young entrepreneurs, paying rent, keeping up with social media, and remembering to call our parents every now and then, it can be easy to forget how to “properly date”. I’ve noticed that dating in this day and age is sort of like a game and there are already a few factors against us.
For starters, we are a generation of instant gratification. We want things right then and there and if there’s something we don’t like we have no problem moving on to the next. And what makes it even worse is that it’s very easy to do so. You can see how that can be an issue for someone who is looking for a serious monogamous relationship. I for one, am all too familiar with the block button on every social platform as well as my contacts. If I don’t want to talk to you..BLOCK! The mentality of “there’s plenty of fish in the sea” so why bother? is so common, I’ve noticed that we don’t really give many chances to “WOW” us these days. It’s kind of like “Oh you voted for Donald Trump, we can’t talk”. Well, that may have been a bad example because that is a deal breaker for me, but you guys get my point.
Social media is one of the biggest distractions in the hunger games of dating. There are a few pros but many cons. When we meet someone for the first time it’s so natural to ask “What’s your Instagram?”. Then we go home and low key stalk the shit out of that person, especially if we’re actually into them. I personally like to know a little bit about someone before I decide to actual give them my time. You know like, do they eat breakfast, are they into Kendrick, do they love their mom, you know that sort of thing. Lol jk, but with Instagram and even Snapchat, you get a bit more insight into the type of person they really are. If they’re secretly Norman Bates the psycho killer or an everyday person with a 9-5. However, there is a point in time where our resources can potentially turn against us.
When you’re actually in a relationship, do you look at the people who comment and like your partners’ pics on a constant basis? We all do it, it’s no secret. That’s normal but, if your partner is the type to fall for the thirst traps or get intrigued by the attention, they might have the urge to slide in a DM. And that’s when problems arise. We know how dangerous DM’s can be for any relationship.
Aside from social media can you believe that Mother Nature is making it hard for us too!!! There’s Winter, Spring, Summer, Fall and with those seasons comes a dating cycle. It sounds crazy, but I promise you it’s sooo real, open your iPhone notes and jot this down, you’ll thank me later! In the winter it’s cold, so naturally, people don’t go out as much which leads to things like “Netflix & Chill” and with that comes cuddling, hence “cuddle weather”. So in these months, people are usually “cuffed” (in a relationship). There’s also holidays like Christmas, New Years and Valentine’s Day that motivate people to want to be involved in something serious to receive gifts. Trust me I know it sounds ridiculous but subconsciously people do this!
Moving past the cold weather, Spring and Summer are “act up” seasons. Everyone is out and about because there are more functions to attend, drinks are being passed around so “blame it on the alcohol” is in full effect and to add to that it’s “sundress season” lol. (If you don’t know what that is look up #sundressseason on Instagram) and you’ll understand. Like Will Smith said, “The summertime is a natural aphrodisiac”. I know from experience it’s just harder for individuals to be faithful in the summer. So beware of the millennial seasonal dating cycle.
By my post, you’ve probably concluded it is impossible to date in 2017 but I’m here to tell you that is not true. It is possible! I wanted to show you guys a few things that do happen on a regular so that when you come across them you don’t take it too seriously. Dating is like a game and it’s up to you to play or not. And if you are going to play, have fun with it. Do the whole texting late night with suggestive emojis thing and have those long sometimes pointless conversations on the phone. Don’t let wanting to be in a serious “perfect” relationship drive you crazy because it will never be perfect and there will always be factors against you. I do believe there’s someone out there for everyone, but like I said earlier, there are plenty of fish in the sea.
So go out to those functions, have a couple drinks and engage in conversation with real people. You don’t have to put all of your eggs in one basket, it’s totally okay to “shop around”, after all, that’s what dating really is. No one gets married on the second date. Remember it’s 2017, everyone is playing the game.